Some Men ARE from Mars….

A controversial title I know, but allow me to elaborate.

Recently I have had an influx of males messaging me on Instagram. Not an issue at all, I expect to get attention from guys based on what I post and I enjoy the social interaction.

My issue however is the content of the messages.

What I don’t understand is why some (not all – I’m trying to be particularly careful not to come across as tarring all males with the same brush) think it is acceptable to say hi and then out of nowhere send a dick pic. No warning, no previous conversation relating to anything to do with it, just a dick pic. Sometimes not even a hello, it just appears there in your messages!

Now, and I’m sure I speak for a lot of women here, the male genitals are not attractive things at the best of times, never mind when they are being sent to you randomly by a stranger!

I never really know how to respond to them either. Are guys expecting your response to be ‘Awesome, thanks for that, here’s a picture of me naked’ ? Because that just isn’t going to happen. I have a lot more self-respect for myself than that. Guys always get one chance with me. My rule is; feel free to send me a message, chat to me, if you send me a dick pic I will tell you not to and if you do it again then I’ll block you. Simple. If you send me a dick pic as a first message then that’s an automatic block.

If people like what I post on Instagram and want to compliment me on how a certain piece of lingerie looks on me or say that I look good generally then fantastic and thank you but I am not posting pictures of me in lingerie for the pleasure of anyone. I am posting them to boost my own self-confidence and help others with body positivity.

I have, on the flip side, last night had a really nice message from a guy saying I post the nicest lingerie for curvy women and how he wished there was the same kind of positive movement for guys. MALES TAKE NOTE! That’s the kind of message I want to receive. Complimentary, insightful and something I can have a conversation about. This however, is the first ‘proper’ message I’ve received from a guy amongst all of the dick pics and men wanting me to ‘get your tits out’ since I started my blog and Instagram.

I must also give a mention to the many females on Instagram who do a similar thing to me and have been doing it for a lot longer who are super positive, supportive and empowering towards each other. I know a lot of you have similar issues to this and I’m not sure of the best way to tackle it. Guys seem to think it’s a compliment to receive a dick pic from them.

Guys; think about it like this, you wouldn’t walk up to a lady in the street and slap your junk round her face would you? Then don’t do it on social media! Keep it in your pants!

Coming in the next few weeks….Signs That You Are Wearing the Wrong Sized Bra